This evening Kwasi and I received a piece of mail from Kwasi’s insurance company (under which we have coverage for Kwabena), Cigna. It was addressed: “To the Parents of Kwabena G. Appiah.”
WOW.
It kind of took me by surprise that we are parents! I was so amazed that I decided to save that envelope and put it in his baby book or his future scrap book (which I sooo need to get started on). I guess you have those moments where it hits you, “OMG, I’m really a parent now, aren’t I??”Sometimes being a parent doesn’t seem real. I think about how we made this child…how he grew inside of me for 9 months… the labor and delivery process….and at times I have to think, “Is he really here?! Did this great blessing really happen to us??” I look at his little face and my heart melts, and all I can do is hold him and tell him over and over how much I love him. I know for sure that he’s going to simply be so tired of Mommy telling him how much she loves him! He probably can’t wait to start talking just so he can tell me to shut the hell up! Ha ha.I never expected motherhood to be as great as it is. Part of my fears was thinking about all the inconveniences that would ensue after the birth of a child: sleepless nights, lack of personal time for yourself (much less your marriage), inability to go party like you were childless, etc. But it’s amazing how, once your child is here, you find that you can get along on much less sleep than you realize and that those 2 a.m. feedings are a piece of cake….You realize that you don’t mind giving up some personal time, because it gives you more time to sit and marvel at your wonderful creation….You realize that yes, your marriage has changed, but in some ways, it deepens your bond because now you’ve gone half on a child with your mate….You realize that you no longer have such desire to go party and drink until you’re stumbling home at 4 a.m. Everything changes and your priorities suddenly become all about your child. And then you get your first piece of mail labeled “To the Parents Of” and you realize that you most certainly are a parent, and oh, how blessed you are, and you wouldn’t change it for the world.
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