Prior to having a baby, Kwasi and I rarely disagreed. We were generally in agreement with everything. However, once Kwabena was born, it then became Mommy vs. Daddy when it comes to child-rearing practices and philosophies. How come no one ever tells you about this part of parenthood?I have always been one to research everything to death; I’ve got to know the evidence-base regarding everything in which I am researching. What do the experts say? What’s the general consensus in the expert world? How many web pages and references can I consult? My latest “project” is to research how to feed our child. Kwasi, on the other hand, operates on how he was raised as a child; a child who was not “babied”, who was tough, who could withstand anything. And he expects Kwabena to be the same, regardless of evidence base. For example, the Great Food Debate. Experts say that when a child first starts to eat, food should be finely pureed, where it’s running off the spoon. Kwasi thinks it should be thick and somewhat lumpy, that we shouldn’t baby Kwabena; he questions how will Kwabena ever learn how to eat?I wonder how many other parents have disagreed when it comes to how to rear their children, particularly with such basic topics such as how to feed your child? I think what is important in parenting is to come to consensus with your mate, because imagine how damaging it could be for your child to see his parents in disagreement about how to raise him? That is when he will start to pit one parent against the other, in hopes of getting what he wants. Welcome to the wonderful world of parenthood. All the intricacies that no books or experts really tell you about!
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