Tomorrow is the big day–the ultrasound where we will find out if this baby is a boy or a girl! I’m very excited! I would like to say it seems like it’s been forever to get to this point, but honestly, it’s been flying by. Seems like only yesterday I was in for my 12 weeks scan, and 6 weeks seemed sooo far away. However, here was are!
I’m sort of ambivalent about whether it’s a boy or a girl. I could throw out any number of reasons why each would be a great choice. For example, having a boy would being able to be a bit more economical and passing everything day from child to child! Not having to re-buy baby clothes! And having a boy with, hopefully, just as much energy to be able to keep up with Kwabena! I love the idea of a playmate for him (eventually). Plus, for some reason, it seems so natural to think of “my boys.” I’ve always been a tom-boy at heart (hell, I wanted to be a boy when I was 6 years old!). So, to be a mom to two boys just seems like that’s how it is supposed to be.
But a girl would mean a whole new experience. First of all, Kwasi is one of four boys. Then along came Kwabena, the first grandchild, the first grandson. To have a girl would be adding in a little gender diversity that is long overdue. LOL Even Kwasi’s brother, Nana, and his other brother, Osei, have commented on how it’s time for a little girl! I am sure she would be spoiled beyond belief with three uncles and an older brother. Awwww……
And to think of dressing a little girl. Well, I can tell you, I’m one of the least fussiest dressiers. I guess you can say I am boring; I lack creative style. My favorite type of shirt is a form-fitting v-neck T. I wouldn’t win any Vogue contests, let’s put it that way. I am not fussy. And I don’t want to have to be a fussy mom. Choosing clothes for Kwabena is the easiest! It’s whatever is clean and half-way decently matches. LOL We iron it–and go. With a girl, does it mean there’s tons of coordination? Pinks, purples, and soft colors sort of excite me when I see the whole selection of pretty stuff for little girls. But it also means more time, thought, care, and MONEY. Buying all those cute outfits, well, isn’t cheap. Boys stuff does NOT excite methe way little girl stuff does. LOL. A caveat, however, is that I have Mommy Group friends who have offered to loan me girl’s items, so maybe clothing would be such an issue….
But, either way, I will be happy when I find out tomorrow. Each gender has it’s pluses, and minuses. But the most important thing is that the baby is healthy (which is has been from previous scans, thankfully). I think about all the people in this world who cannot have babies, or have been trying and having no success, with no answers about whether they are even fertile, to the women who just hasn’t met a man, or the man, with whom she would like to settle down. And I am thankful that we’ve been given this opportunity again, when it seemed so daunting a possibility to even conceive again.
I guess what they say is true–it happens when you least expect it! At least, that was true for us!
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