SOOO….Kwasi wanted to whip him again. Another 10 lashes (5 lashes for his age…..3 lashes for each of the items mentioned on the “Oops” note….and he “earned” 2 more after school from Kwasi). So a total of 10. He told him before he goes to bed, he’s getting his lashes because of getting the note. And he wanted to use this thick paint stir from Home Depot. You know the ones they give you for the 5-galllon paint buckets. Not the skinny ones, the larger ones (!)
Now, MY punisment for Kwabena was to take away the aquarium trip that I had planned for tomorrow night. I had already bought tickets for all of us to go, and for the past 2 weeks, had been telling Kwabena that if he earns enough stickers for good behavior and doing what he is supposed to do at home (responsibilities), then we will go to the aquarium. So that was the plan for tomorrow night.
So my punishment (without consulting Kwasi) was to tell Kwabena that he has to stay with Kwasi’s mom and the rest of the family is still going to go to the aquarium. Kwasi said “Let’s just give him his whipping, and we still go to the aquarium.”
Um, no….Especially after being told the aquarium is his reward for good behavior. There’s no way he can come home with another “Ooops” note and then two days later think he can go have fun at the aquarium. Sorry, Kwabena.
So last night Kwasi wanted to insist on whipping Kwabena with this paint stir, 10 lashes, and I stood in the middle and held onto the stick and said, “NO, you are not whipping him 10 times. It’s excessive, and I’m not letting you do it.”
Kwasi got upset because I was “interfering.” Kwabena’s crying and screaming as Kwasi is trying to turn him over and expose his butt. And even told Kwabena, “Take it like a man. Bend over and stop acting like a little bitch.” That is completely unappropriate and is verbally abusive.
I told Kwabena, “Here, take your clothes and get dressed.”
End of the story– Kwasi backed down, left the room, I told Kwabena to get dressed and his punishment was to get no story or milk before bed. And that he will not get to join us at the aquarium.
I thought Kwasi would be totally pissed at me last night, but he calmly told me that I can’t protect and save Kwabena all the time, and that he was still going to whip him today either before school or after school (although I am doubtful he will).
But this shit is out of control. I mean, majorly out of control. All of this has escalated since school started, as his way of trying to control Kwabena, to make him see how serious it is to have proper behavior at school, etc. etc. But whipping your kid 10 times and leaving marks on his ass the next day is just too excessive, and I’m not going to allow it.
This is the 2nd time in a week that he has called Kwabena a “bitch-ass” and to “man up.” And I am sick of the shit.
Last night before this whole drama went down, he even smacked Ohene on the arm because when he told Ohene to take a bite of food and Ohene said, “Nooo,” he smacked him and said, “You don’t tell me no.”
I told him, “Don’t you hit Ohene!” How the hell do you smack a 21-month old for saying no, that he doesn’t want to take a bite of his dinner??
It’s gotten waaaay out of control, and we must start counseling immediately. We are so dysfunctional….there is no united front….we live like warring roommates trying to raise kids on two separate values, practices, and principles…..And he’s the most immature, controlling person unwilling to compromise and discuss things like an adult.
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