It’s been 4 days since Ohene was born. Still so amazing to me that he’s here. That was a quick pregnancy. The funny thing is that I don’t feel like there’s really been that “weird-two-week” getting comfortable transition that we went through with Kwabena. With Kwabena, the first 2 weeks were the hardest as I was trying to get comfortable with nursing…worried about whether he was eating enough, or if I was making enough milk…getting used to lack of sleep…finding my “groove” with things…This time around, I feel like an old pro. Been there, done that. How cool is that?
I find that I am transitioning pretty well, as is Kwasi and Kwabena. However, there is definitely some guilt. Prior to Ohene, Kwabena had my full, undivided attention. If it was time for bedtime and stories, well, that’s what we did. Now, Ohene may wake up and want to nurse at the same time I am reading bedtime stories to Kwabena. That happened tonight. And what I did was just took Ohene over to Kwabena’s bed, nursed him, and continued to read Hercules to Kwabena (although Kwabena was more interested and happy in the fact that Ohene was lying next to him him, LOL). But I do feel guilty that I now have to put Kwabena aside when Ohene needs to nurse or needs “Mommy” time. What else is a Mom to do, though?
I know that Kwabena will be okay, as long as I continue to make an effort to give him my time. In fact, tonight he told me (after reading Hercules), “Mommy, I like when you’re with me.” Awwww……..
Kwasi doesn’t like to see that I may let Ohene cry for a second “too long” for the sake of Kwabena. For example, tonight I was playing with Kwabena, helping him build a Lego airplane, and Ohene woke from his nap, wanting to nurse. Kwasi tended to Ohene momentarily, then questioned where my “priorities” were.
*SIGH* Why is a mom always pulled in several directions? Because when you’re pulled in various directions simultaneously, surely someone/something takes a hit. And in this case, I want to minimize the negative affect that Kwabena will feel. He’s only 3.5 years old. He won’t understand.
Anyhow, Kwabena is doing okay with the transition, but I have noticed some little behaviors that can only be attributed to Ohene’s arrival. Plus, he’s able to converse with me about his feelings, so that’s helpful. Like today, Kwasi had to fight Kwabena to get him to take off his night-night pull-up (he’s not night potty trained). This is never really an issue. Kwabena knows to take off the pull-up when he wakes up. But this morning, he was insisting on wearing it for as long as possible. I confronted him on whether this had anything to do with the fact that Ohene wears a diaper all day, and he said yes.
And last night, he had a rough time settling down. I knew he was looking for attention, positive OR negative, and I just can’t have that. I told him that in the future when he needs attention, to use the words, “Mommy, I need attention” or “Mommy, I need LOVE.”
Well, I would love to write more, but I am extrememly exhausted. And it’s 11:20 p.m.. My bed is callng!!!!!!!!
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